Friends with ex's

Ok, I'll tell ya... if you can TRULY be friends with an ex without ANY emotional attachment (sexual, love besides friends, desiring of more, fantasizing, etc... without all that!) Then you have a gem in a world of stone that should be crushed because ex's who are friends are ruining people all over.

When ex's are calling you to "save" them (and they are ENGAGED!), something isn't right.
When ex's tell their counselors about you, and their counselor says ya'll should date again, something isn't right.
When ex's swear you are the one they are gonna marry, even tho you broke up 3 plus years ago, something isn't right.
When ex's are calling you about all their problems, when their best friend is a phone call away, something isn't right.
When ex's are calling you to loan them money, when their family lives in the same town as them, something isn't right.
When ex's are all over your social media commenting and liking, when they are in a relationship, something isn't right.

I could go on and on about what isn't right but the biggest thing that isn't right, you still complain about why you can't get a decent girl. Why the good ones don't stay. It doesn't take a genius to figure it out and I thought you were pretty damn smart...

Staying friends with your ex's not only keeps the good ones away, but when you snag a good one... it destroys her security. It drives her a bit batty. It brings out a side in her she never knew existed and hasn't seen since you. And so much worse. Trying to re-find herself because she got lost trying to fight for you is the worst thing you could do to a girl.

Guys- if you want a good girl, give up the exs. And never ever put her thru dealing with them. Please hear me when I say this. You can make every excuse in the world about why it's ok, but PLEASE open up your eyes! Please!
And if a girl tells you- "She's not over you." Guys- girls know whats up. Please hear her. Please believe her.

If you can't get over your ex's, you know they aren't over you. Please don't leave me saying... I told you so when you can't find an amazing girl.


Girls- This all goes for you too. Get over him!! Or you are gonna miss out on the best guy you could ever find, he'll pass you by if you are to stuck on the past. Your ex is NOT THE ONE!