I think it's pretty ridiculous that I am always on his schedule. He'll make a plan with me, so then I plan for it, then he wakes up and doesn't feel like it. WHO CARES if you FEEL like it!!! Get over your selfish self and feelings and do what you said you would!! Be a man of your word you dang pansy! I'm not your momma and don't have to spoil you and give in to your way!
He does this alot, to everyone. But everyone says "Oh thats just (insert his name)". No, thats not just him, people have enabled, encouraged, and allowed it to be him. His behavior is not acceptable and shouldn't be. Its one thing to allow grace sometimes, but ALL the time?? Hello? And these people who say it's just who he is get as frustrated as I do. Well they go with the flow easier. I used to, but after a couple years of this, going with his flow is wearing me down. I've lost the patience.
He says he missed me when I was gone. I asked why, he said cuz he missed the company. Tho I replied "then you didn't miss me, anyone could fill that" he did say "no, there's other reasons". But all that to say, if he just really wants the company, and he has to do it on his schedule by how he feels, then what if I didn't follow? What if I wasn't his "company"? He has a hard time finding anyone else.
I don't even know why he hangs out with me, he goes on and on about how much I annoy him, yet he "missed" me. What? What did he miss? Putting me down?
He called me selfish the other day. I just don't think he has room to speak, but he has a way that when I point anything out he can justify himself, make it look like what I'm saying is dumb and not true. He has a way of turning it around to be my issue. I've been noticing that, he doesn't take responsibility for his actions. Can't say he is sorry. Constantly twist words around. And WHO is selfish?? Just cuz he's better at twisting the truth and putting me down doesn't mean he's not selfish.
I have such a hard time expressing myself with him. I try to say what I'm thinking and he spews my words back in a different order, or somehow brings it back to me and how I'm wrong. I don't even know how he does that.
Example-
Last night's conversation:
Him- "I wanna go to the (town) pool tomorrow."
Me- "What if we did (apartment name) pool first then later go to the (town) pool later?"
Him- "Yeah, that sounds good. Lets do that."
Today's conversation:
Him- "(making plans out loud for his day, which isn't what we talked about.)
Me- "Oh but I thought we made plans to go to (apt) pool then (town) pool?"
Him- "You made those plans."
Me- "What? You agreed to them, so WE made those plans."
Him- "I didn't make those plans you did."
Me- "Wait... so we aren't going to then?"
Him- "No, I wanna (making his own plans)"
Me- So you don't wanna go to the (apt) and (town) pools? Why?"
HIm- "No, I wanna... (plans). I don't feel like it."
Earlier he agreed, but then later he doesn't FEEL like it so suddenly I'm the one who made the plans, not him. Really? If he didn't wanna go by those plans he could have said something at the time. Either way, SOMEONE has to make a plan. Whats so wrong with me taking the lead? Does he have issues with following? ... Yeah, only when its something he doesn't wanna do. How selfish is he right? Gosh. So obnoxious.
I don't know what I'm gonna do... I know what I wanna do but... sigh. Whatever I choose, he'll find a way to make me feel like crap and like I'm selfish and in the wrong. I do what he wants so I don't have to put up with those feelings, but maybe I need to go thru it to stop putting up with his crap..? I don't know.
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